Life: Why It's Okay To Not Have A Plan


I write this post on the back of a debbie-downer day. A day spent wallowing in the same position for hours on end doing nothing productive and instead watching episode after episode of One Tree Hill whilst hating on myself.
I'm not really sure what it was that exactly triggered this stint of self-pity but after finally dragging myself into the shower at 10pm, I had a thought...

Why am I putting so much bloody pressure on myself?

It was one of those days where I punished myself. Firstly for not going to the gym, then for eating a whole pizza for dinner followed by a tub of ice cream and so on and so on. I did pretty much nothing all day due to feeling so down and unmotivated and I was punishing myself for sitting on the sofa for hours on end when in actual fact it was probably just what I needed and my lack of energy and motivation was probably my body's way of telling me so.

I think one of the main reasons I was feeling so low was thinking about what I'm doing with my life. While I wouldn't exactly count myself as a massive failure, I am not where I thought I would be at this point in my life and everything I aspired to be throughout school and college has not happened for me (I'm neither a famous fashion designer nor a forensic scientist, sob!). I've constantly found myself thinking about what my future holds and what I'm going to do career-wise and how I'm going to get there - and it's been wearing me out.

And it's dawned on me that I'm taking the wrong attitude. 

While I completely admire people who have their shit together from primary school and know what they want to do and who they want to be and how to get there, I've also realised that there is nothing wrong with the people who don't. I'm sure I'm not the only one who'a had a quarter-life crisis and is freaking out about what my purpose in life is but in the same way it doesn't feel like it's worth getting upset over anymore.
I don't have a thriving career or a mortgage or even a pink driving license. But what I - and I'm sure many of you - forget is that there's still plenty to be proud of and to look forward to.

So in fear of going off on a ramble, the main point of this post is to say that it's okay. It's okay not to know where you're going in life and it's okay to be okay with it. I don't have a career plan yet, no. But I've worked a few different jobs and I've built up my experience and done a lot of amazing things in between. It's okay to have a lazy day for yourself if you need one, without punishing yourself for it and it's okay to not be everything you dreamed of when you were 6 or even 16.
While I'm willing to work hard at any opportunity that may come at me, it's kind of exciting not knowing what those opportunities are and just enjoying the journey along the way.
(Plus it's never too late to start something new, AMEN to those who apply to university at 30!)


Always, Alice x

19 comments :

  1. I really needed to read this. I suffer with anxiety and depression, my anxiety has been getting in my way of getting a job for the past couple of years. I have my up and down moments with how I feel, like everyone does, but the past week or so I've been feeling down about myself. I'm glad you wrote this post and I read it, because I needed that reminder that's it's ok to not know what you want to do and it's ok if you take a little longer than everyone else to figure it out. Thank you xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Your comment literally made me cry, I'm so glad my post helped and that it brightened your day! It's totally okay to go at your own pace to figure everything out, and its your life at the end of the day so it's okay not to be doing what everyone else is doing x

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  3. I completely agree and relate to this post! I put so much pressure on myself to be at the same point in life as some of my friends or tell myself that I should be more successful. When really everyone takes things at different paces and it is completely fine not to know what you're going to do with the rest of your life! xx

    Bethan Likes

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    1. Of course! In reality, even those who we deem to be successful etc, probably have down days like the rest of us and need a hug and some consolation x

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  4. Ahh I totally loved reading this. I think everyone in any position has those days too.

    moremindfulyou.blogspot.com

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    1. You're so right! We're all human at the end of the day and it's your life so go at your own pace x

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  5. Hello lovely! I found your blog via your comment on a post of mine, and wanted to say thank you for your lovely feedback. And now onto your post...I love how real the above is, though I 'have my shit together' (at this moment anyway), I spent years feeling like I didn't know where life was taking me, and then all of a sudden everything fell into place. Having said that I still have those days where the motivation/enthusiasm/the get go to do something is lacking...today being one of them. But I've come to realise the unknown is exciting, and I look back on where I was a year ago as opposed to now, and it reminds me what wonderful twists and turns life can send our way when we least expect it.

    Elizabeth xo | Elizabeth-Daisy.com

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    1. Couldn't agree more Elizabeth, and I'm glad that you're finding your way lovely :) x

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  6. I think the older I get the more I realise that everyone else is just winging it too and such a small percentage of us have a plan or are where we thought we would be. Its definitely ok to have a day where you pretty much do nothing, if we all had productive days 100% of the time we'd run ourselves into the ground! Such an important post to remind us all of that!
    Amy xx Call Me Amy

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    1. Well said Amy! It's important to take time to re-cooperate and enjoy doing nothing! x

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  7. I actually agree with you on this one. It is ok indeed!! I find that sometimes when you've everything planned and laid-out, And when it doesn't turn out the way you planned, the effect it has on you is worst! Depression, disappointment and sometimes you loose all motivation to continue. Sometimes we need to just take one day at a time and just go with the flow and pray all ends well. :)
    Great post!!

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    1. Oh completely, there's nothing worse than things not going to plan but life goes on and taking one day at a time definitely helps turn things around x

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  8. Hi,
    I suffer with chronic pain and end up being at home. Doing what you did today. I watched The good wife. The weather is pants too. So thank you for writing this post, it is ok to not have a plan, go with the flow and you never know where that may take you. I have down days but try to find the positive.
    Shanel
    http://babblingonbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. I'm glad my post helped chick, it can't be easy for you but taking each day as it comes definitely helps! Hands up to you for staying so positive too x

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  9. It's totally OK not to have a plan! One of the biggest life lessons for me was learning not to stick so rigidly to one plan, because if it doesn't work out, then what? Being open to different opportunities is so important. And it's also true that every now and then we need to take a day off and do absolutely nothing! Great post. x

    Kate Louise Blogs

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    1. Couldn't agree more Kate, I try not to put all of my eggs in one basket anymore and try and go with the flow instead x

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  10. I hope you feel better soon! I'm just graduating uni this year and I feel like the pressure is on to go ahead and get a career in the field I studied for, but I just don't know if I want to. I've decided that it's best to live life for what YOU want, rather than being defined by a career I want to be known for who I am! (very very similar to what you said as well!) Don't get hung up on the pressure to be something your not, or achieve certain 'milestones' you're not ready for!

    Lindsey Elyse | lindseyginge

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  11. One Tree Hill never gets boring does it? Sometimes I feel quite disappointed after a lazy day but then again it's just what I need to feel refreshed. You've already built up quite a lot of experience and I definitely agree, you never know what's coming next. Sometimes things have a funny way of working out :)

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